the best manifesto on which to build a platform of queer love and self-acceptance, and ensure the foundations of our community are not further eroded. Andrew Holleran, author of Dancer from the Danceĭrawn from a lifetime of thinking about the lives of gay men. A gay man could read this book as if his life depended on it - and perhaps it does.
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But most of all it is stories, fascinating stories gleaned from the gay men who came to Odets for talk therapy. Out of the Shadows is several books: A snapshot of three generations of gay men and the effect AIDS has had on them, an argument for the gay sensibility in a time of assimilation, and a memoir. Out of the Shadows shows us how a new way forward is possible through learning to accept ourselves and others as they are, and independently inventing our own lives. From a 74-year-old who only felt able to come out after his wife had died, to the boy raised in a strict religious family who worked his way to San Francisco, to the middle-aged defence lawyer who left everything behind to embrace a new life, the experiences here explore everything from grief to survival, childhood pain to the definition of gay itself. They also suffer from ongoing trauma wrought by the AIDS epidemic, something that is all too often relegated to history.ĭrawing on a lifetime's work as a clinical psychologist, Walt Odets uses the stories of his patients as well as those of his own deep relationships with other gay men to illuminate how these difficulties may be overcome. While young men often come out more readily, even those from the most liberal of backgrounds still struggle to accept themselves and experience stigma, shame and difficulties with intimate relationships.
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'A gay man could read this book as if his life depended on it - and perhaps it does' Andrew Holleran, author of Dancer from the DanceĮven in our modern progressive world, it's not easy to be a gay man. 'Odets's warm and lyrical voice, his inspiring picture of how imaginative gay life can be, has sent me queuing for the couch.' Evening Standard